Adoption Ceremony

“When we take time to mark a passage, we are dipping into the river of life.”
-Robin Heerens Lysne

Ceremonies are Important in Adoption Because:

  • They have always played a key role in all societies, particularly at times of major transition in people’s lives.
  • They assist people to “step over the threshold” at times of major change.
  • They can be an effective way to deal with change.
  • They can help us express our feelings, thoughts, and emotions in a concrete way.
  • They can bring people together during difficult times of transition and also celebratory times.
  • They can enhance and acknowledge the adop­tion process for families.

Example Adoption Ceremonies:

  • Mother Blessings/Blessingway: A Mother Blessing/Blessingway is a ceremony that celebrates a woman’s rite of passage into motherhood. It creates a sacred and safe environment where a mother-to-be is honored and gains a sense of power, confidence and support that will help her walk her path into motherhood.
  • Entrustment Ceremonies/Open Adoption: In open adoption, where the birth parents will remain involved with the child, the change of roles must be clearly understood by everyone.
  • “Family Day”: Celebrates adoption day…there is no “right” day to select.
  • Birthmother’s Day:  Celebrates the importance of your child’s birthmother.  This first started in Seattle in 1990, and was founded by Mary Jean Wolch-Marsh, a birthmother.  Mother’s Day is the 2nd Sunday in May and Birthmother’s Day is the Saturday before Mother’s Day.
  • Baby/Child Blessing and/or Naming Ceremonies: Every culture has a cere­mony to name and welcome a new child.

For some of your guests, this ceremony may be their first experience with adoption, and these ceremonies can affirm life as a united family within your extended family or community.